1.  What is it that only I can do? Can someone else shoulder this task or activity? When do we need to say “no” to something “good” for the “best” thing?
2. Five years from now, what will we wish we would have done differently? We realized we needed to get about those things now to live without regrets.
3. Is this event we have planned/anticipated a goal or a commitment? If it was a goal, it would likely happen. If it was a commitment, it was set in stone! We realized that Jim was thinking many things were goals and I had my heart set on them being commitments. This led to some intense discussions in our home! This clarification of goal versus commitment helped me to clarify my expectations as well as to give some freedom and grace in our relationship.

These three questions have served us well during our years of balancing marriage, family and ministry. I offer them as an encouragement to you as you are in the thick of doing just that. Your home, husband and children as well as ministry look different for each one of you. You are highly valued by the Lord and by us!  Our prayer is that in some small way our team can bring encouragement and blessing as you seek to “Know Christ and to Make Him Known” to your precious family, staff, students and friends.