By Linnette Bachman
I have experienced different seasons of tiredness. There was newborn baby first-time mom tired, vitamin deficiency tired, fall-launch I haven’t seen my husband in ten days tired, we just moved for the summer to live with college students tired, morning sickness babies 2, 3, 4, and 5 tired, etc. Coming into 2018, I am not sure what kind of tired you may be feeling. The holidays can feel like a marathon sometimes. January can feel like a mini-fall-launch sometimes. For us mamas at home, though we aren’t often the ones out late at night, we live out a significant role as we hold down the fort at home. What are we to do when we feel tired? I suggest GASP!
G: Close the Gates
Margo Balsis encouraged me years ago that there are seasons for giving and for guarding. There are times I feel full of energy and ready to host. I’ll tell Dave to pull out the calendar and start setting up meals with people.There are other times when I close the gates, and there is a moratorium on adding anything new to the calendar for a couple weeks.This helps me breathe easier! Nehemiah used literal gates to help the people rest on the Sabbath. (Nehemiah 13) My gates look more like our family’s Google Calendar.
A: Get Time Alone with God
We need time to check in with ourselves and the Lord. Sometimes when we are tired, we choose one more snooze cycle rather than connecting with the One who can give us the rest and energy we need. Two simple prayers that Dave and I like are: Lord, reveal myself to me. Lord, reveal yourself to me. I am often so unaware of what is going on inside of me! And I forget the Lord is near. Jesus says we are to come to Him, and He will give us rest. (Matthew 11:28-30)
Mamas, we need sleep! Many evenings I am wiped out; and yet, instead of just going to bed, I will turn to a mindless distraction. But seriously, how amazing would I feel the next day if I just went to bed at 8pm? A few years ago when I was feeling at the end of my rope, an older mom said, Linnette, I think you are just tired. Get some rest. It’s going to be okay. She was so right! Sleep is a gift from God. (Psalm 127:2)
P: Ask for Prayer
Do you have a short list of friends who you can ask for prayer when the going gets tough? I think we have a tendency to either complain via our Facebook status or isolate when what we really need is fellowship that will encourage us and lift us up to the Lord. Ephesians 6:18 in the Message really encourages me: In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out. Yes and Amen!
There are times we have to dig deep and keep going as moms even when we are tired. There are seasons to sacrifice and lay down our lives for the Gospel. But we can’t live in a “digging deep” season indefinitely. That isn’t what we want to reproduce in our kids or the women we meet with. His yoke is easy and His burden is light. Let us show that to the world!
I wonder if there are any mamas out there feeling tired today? I hope these 4 encouragements might help you lean into Jesus.
Here’s a link to a song that helps me slow down from a local Nashville artist; it’s called “Come to Me.”
Linnette and her husband Dave began their marriage and Nav staff career twelve years ago (EDGE and SIT at Colorado State) and they currently lead the collegiate Nav ministries in Nashville. They have five children: Kate (9), Kylie (8), McKenzie (6), Daniel (4), and Andrew (baby). Linnette and Dave are passionate about the shared mission of raising up disciple-makers and raising up their kids.