By Linnette Bachman
In our Google-everything culture, it is easy to get information very quickly. Need a recipe that is vegetarian, gluten-free, feeds 20, and can freeze well? Boom. About 3 million options will pop-up to offer you help. Is your 4-month-old not sleeping at night? Boom. Over 6 million links appear in less than one second for you to peruse. Many will be the pleas of moms just as confused as you are!
Sometimes we take comfort in knowing that we are not alone in facing sleep regressions—and the knowledge that they can happen around 4 months can be helpful. But I think what we really need is not just information, but true wisdom—HOW should we respond to said sleep regression? How have mothers who’ve gone before us gotten through the sleepless nights and long days and honored Christ through it all? It is hard to find that on Google.
James 1:5 tells us, If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. There aren’t many “should’s” in the Bible, but this is one. We should ask God for wisdom, and He gives generously! I have taken this verse to the bank over and over again in my mommy missionary life.
Another verse that has inspired me is Proverbs 4:7, The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. When I think of all I have—time, energy, money—they are worth devoting to seeking out wisdom.
One of the primary ways God has answered my pleas for wisdom is through me seeking godly counsel. Having an older woman that I can regularly talk with and ask questions has been vital for me in the past decade of my life. In my staff training years, I was so blessed to meet regularly with older staff women. When we moved to Nashville, I had to seek out women out of state via monthly phone calls. Currently I have a NavEncore staff woman, Helen, who meets with me every other week. I am deeply grateful for her regular investment into me. I am a different person because of it. God has used our times together to broaden my view of Him and my trust in Him. We have an amazing group of women we can access within the Navigator family for input. So few of my “church friends” have this!
Sitting down with godly men and women during meals or free time at conferences has also been huge for Dave and me. I would highly recommend contacting couples or women you respect before a conference begins to set up face-to-face time where you can seek out wisdom. I find that when we are intentional to set up meals before we arrive at a conference, we maximize our time. I am still chewing daily on a few conversations we had at NCC. One of them spurred on one of my top five goals for this year! When leaders visit your campus, don’t be hesitant to invest in babysitting to have space to seek out wisdom. This is an opportunity where wise counselors are actually coming to you!
Sometimes I don’t even know where I need help. I’ve found that I need to take time to process with the Lord what is going on in life and ask Him where I need wisdom. I want to make sure to ask Dave for his wisdom, too, before I ask people outside our home. He often has great ideas on ways to help the kids and perspective on life issues.
I desire to be the wise woman who builds her house in Proverbs 14:1! I pray Proverbs 3 for each of us: Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her; those who hold her fast are called blessed.
Linnette and her husband Dave began their marriage and Nav staff career twelve years ago (EDGE and SIT at Colorado State) and they currently lead the collegiate Nav ministries in Nashville. They have five children: Kate (9), Kylie (8), McKenzie (6), Daniel (4), and Andrew (baby). Linnette and Dave are passionate about the shared mission of raising up disciple-makers and raising up their kids.